How to Be More Attractive to Men

There are a few easy things that most down-to-earth, attractive men look for in their dates. It's not the same all across the board, but there happen to be similarities. And while you may not be trying to impress one man in particular, being attractive is a noteworthy goal. There's nothing wrong with that. To be more attractive to men, use these tips and techniques.

 Steps

Part One: Physical Traits

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   Accentuate your femininity. Start by wearing red lipstick. Studies indicate that men are more drawn to a woman’s lips than any other feature on her face, especially when red lipstick is applied. When you're not in the mood for lipstick, be sure to at least give your luscious lips some lip balm. Lip gloss works well, too.
   
   
   
   • Wear red. One recent study found that a group of 96 men were more willing to spend $100 (and presumably more interested in amorous advances) on women who wore red as opposed to different colors.
   • Do exercises that make your boobs and butt firmer. Work on getting a smaller waist, which you can accentuate by making your butt bigger. If desired, you can also take steps to make your breasts look bigger.
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   Groom yourself well. Staying clean and fresh is a must. Bathe regularly and keep your finger- and toenails clean. Make sure your skin is soft, smooth, and free of blemishes. A lot of people focus on tanning or bleaching their skin. However, the color of their partner's skin is not what attracts most guys, it is the touch; be sure to moisturize, exfoliate, and stay hydrated to keep your skin as soft and supple as possible.
   • Wash your face twice a day — not more, not less. Once in the morning and once before bed will help cut down on breakouts and help minimize the appearance of large pores. Be sure to moisturize after each time you wash your face.
   • Shave your legs and armpits regularly. Consider trimming/styling your pubic hair. (This, however, is specific to the man who you are trying to attract.)
   • Use nice perfume. Nothing drives a guy wild like a good smelling person. Do not overdo it though; wear a light amount so that the guy can smell it when he is close to you. You do not want to wear so much that everyone can smell you when you walk into the room.
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   Wear clothes that flatter your body. We're not all born with perfect bodies; that's the bad news. The good news is that we can change that if we work at it. In the meantime, give yourself an emotional boost by wearing clothes that fit you:
   
   • If you are heavier in the thighs, don't wear jeans that are boot-cut or flared, as they exaggerate the heft in the legs.
   • Don't wear baggy jackets or ones that are meant for men.^[ Try for more fitting jackets in more conservative colors. This way your jackets will fit better with other items in your wardrobe.
   • If your tummy isn't yet chiseled (and that's okay, it's hard to do!) avoid tank tops and other tops that show lots of skin (halter tops). Instead, opt for tunics and peasant tops, throwing t-shirts in for more casual occasions.
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   Take excellent care of your hair. Studies have shown that lustrous hair — particularly if it is long — is a major factor in how attractive women are considered, probably because it is an excellent indicator of health.^[4] Make sure to get the ends trimmed often so you don't have any split ends.^[5] Keep your hair clean and shiny, and consider growing it out; however, don’t try to grow your hair past the point at which it naturally looks good, as this will weigh it down and make it look scruffy. Read How to Get Super Shiny Hair for more details.
   
   
   
   • Avoid damaging it through over-styling. At most, use the blow drier and straightening iron once a week. Men like women who can get dressed up and look fancy, but they also tend to like women who sport a natural look.
   • If long hair doesn’t typically look good on you, choose a haircut that flatters your face shape instead. Lots of women find that alternating between short and long hair keeps things interesting!
   • Don't believe the hair myths. Continuously combing your hair or massaging your scalp will not stimulate growth, nor will frequent trims make your hair grow faster.^[4] The best way to treat your hair is to:
     
     • Wash it infrequently. Once or twice a week is what many women with great hair do.
     • Use deep treatments every once in a while. Make sure moisture stays in your locks longer.
     • Eat healthy. Hair is composed primarily of protein. If you eat well and drink plenty of water, not only will your hair look great, but your body will, too.
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   Work out. You like your guys in shape, right? Well surprise, surprise! Guys like their partners fit as well. Get outside and get active. Not only is being fit good for your appearance, it’s also good for your health. Just remember that being too skinny is a turnoff; guys may like trim, toned women, but they also like curves in the right places.
   
   
   
   • Exercise every day if you can, but at least 3 times a week is highly recommended. Join an intramural sports team for some competitive, social fun, or join a spinning class at your local Y. If you do nothing else, try to walk for 30 minutes every day.
   • Women might want to focus more on endurance and toning, not building muscle. If you do incorporate strength training into your routine (it's not a bad idea), do low weight and high repetition to tone. Men who are seeking to build muscle do high weight and low repetitions.
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   Dress sexy every once in a while. Instead of following the latest one-size-fits-some fashion trend, stay classic and timeless. Choose clothes that make you look slim, emphasize your bust, or flatter your curves as necessary. To appear subtly sexy, try a slightly sheer shirt.
   • A little cleavage is not a bad thing if you want to catch a guy's attention, but if you have more cleavage out of the shirt than in it, you will leave very little to the imagination, which can also be a turnoff.
   • Sexy underwear is very hot to any man, so be sure to choose something form-fitting and feminine – possibly even a thong.

Part Two: Non-Physical Traits

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   Smile and be friendly. Studies show that smiling women tend to be ranked as more attractive.^[6] Make sure you know how to smile with the eyes, a.k.a. the “Duchenne smile,” for maximum impact. Smiling is an instant way of looking approachable, which will make men much likelier to strike up a conversation with you. Remember, guys like partners that they can share a good conversation and laughter with.
   
   
   
   • When you flirt, be outgoing but not boisterous; the same kind of charm you are attracted to in successful, confident, down-to-earth guys is what guys are attracted to in women. Subtle is better than in-your-face.
   • Learn how to flirt with body language. Smiling will get a long way if you let it, but like a great dish, it can't stand alone. Put some other methods on your plate — using your lips, hips, and even eyebrows.
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   Give yourself opportunities to succeed. Don't set yourself up for failure. Guys and girls both put themselves in situations where they're more likely to fail than not. That's unfortunate, because love is already hard. That doesn't mean you can't shoot for the stars; it just means that you can't complain that the world isn't fair when your plan doesn't work out.
   • Don't get involved in affairs or with cheating men. Relationships are meant for two people. If you're the third person who gets involved, you're likely to get the short end of the stick when his girlfriend finds out. Even if he does break up with her, what's to stop him from cheating on you?
   • Give the guys who like you a chance. They may not be as attractive, funny, or perfect, but you do know that they like you. Pick the best one out of the group and go out on a date. If it doesn't work out, you gave it a shot. If it does, you made it happen. Imagine how great you'd feel if the perfect guy gave you a chance at love?
   • Don't keep repeating your mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes in love. We sometimes choose the wrong guy and he walks all over us and makes a mess of the relationship. That's okay — everyone does that. What lots of people don't do is learn from their mistakes. If you don't learn from failure, you'll be attracting the wrong type of guy — over and over again.
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   Develop your emotional fitness. Men aren't known for their desire to be around tumultuous women. To be more centered, work on understanding your emotions and, if necessary, coping with emotional pain. If you have a history of troubled relationships, make sure you know how to both have a healthy relationship and recognize a manipulative or controlling one.
   
   
   
   • Try to be optimistic instead of pessimistic. Unless you're naturally pessimistic and don't think you can change, being optimistic will help you feel better about yourself. Women who feel better about themselves attract more men.
   • Be playful. Develop a playful attitude towards life. Studies have found that women who are playful are more attractive.^[7] Just when you thought that being an old stick-in-the-mud was the only thing getting you by!
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   Be social. You're not going to attract men by sitting in your living room watching late-night reruns of Bewitched. You have to put yourself out there, even if it's scary.
   • Start small. Go out with a group of your friends when you ordinarily wouldn't. You might meet someone. Finding the right man is a numbers game. If you give yourself more and more chances, eventually it will happen!
   • Ask your friends for help. It might sound old-fashioned, but ask your friends to set you up with a guy on a date. Your friends are supposed to know you really well. This makes them expert matchmakers, in theory at least!
   • Use the internet. Try online dating. Make an honest profile of yourself and begin messaging with guys you seem to like. Go out with them on a public date and see if you hit it off. There's nothing wrong with trying and failing, remember? There's all the upside in the world with trying. You could hit a home run.
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   Be yourself. Once you have the look and style you are comfortable and confident with, just remember to be down-to-earth, honest, and have fun. After all, that’s why you’re in the game: to have fun and be happy. If you try to adopt a style or attitude to impress someone, they will eventually see through it because you will be constantly maintaining a persona, and they will see you as a weak individual. Be happy and confident; there are plenty of great guys out there who will like you for your personality, and in turn you will both be much happier.
   
   
   

 Warnings

• Do not wear too much makeup. A lot of guys like natural beauty over fake Hollywood glamour. At the very least, most guys don’t want partners with painted-on faces.